General
prayer for Relationships/ and the focus is for conflict between husband and
wife
16 For where envying and strife
[is], there [is] confusion and every evil work. 17
But the wisdom that is from
above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, [and] easy to be intreated, full
of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18
And
the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace; James:
3:16-18.
I
am personalizing this prayer and please appropriate your situation.
Omniscient, Omnipresent, Omnipotent God,
the architect of all relationships, who care for us deeply we want to praise
You and honor You because You alone are worthy of all our praises. Thank you
for the gift of Your Son, Jesus Christ and placing a blessed hope in our
hearts. Thank you because You know everything about us even before we speak to
you.
Just like a child talking to the
earthly Father, we want to approach Your throne room of grace, fully
acknowledging that You alone has the ability to scale the unscalable. Lord my
relationship in general and with my spouse is so muddled up, and I do not even
know where to begin with. More than changing my spouse, my humble petition
would be that You would change me. Show me areas of weaknesses in my life that
would need Divine attention, and speak to me through Your Word. Overwhelm me
with Your love and compassion and I pray that I will not allow a wedge between
the two of us. Lord, I am constantly reminded what You have joined together,
let me nor my spouse take it for granted, nor will we try to separate because
Your Word says, 6Wherefore they are no more
twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put
asunder; Mat: 19:6.
Almighty God, the Father, Your Word
proclaims that all things work together for the good of those who love You, in
Romans 8:28. 28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love
God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Even though it is
beyond my comprehension, in the midst of my huge marital cross fire, I can
trust that You are doing something good.
Search
my heart Oh! God, and show me areas of pride and weed out any areas that are
not pleasing to You, and if I am the reason for my problem convict and confront
me through the wonder working power of the Holy Spirit. Convict me of my sin,
and cultivate Your humility so that I learn to openly confess my wrong doing,
so I can be restored in my relationship with my spouse.
Father I
come to the conclusion, no matter how hard I try, and how well I can argue or
reason out, I am incapable of changing my spouse. This is the work of the Holy
Spirit and I refuse to usurp Your convicting power role in my spouses’ life.
What part my spouse is responsible for in our conflict, change her or him for
Your glory and honor.
On my part I want to lay aside, all
anger, wrath, dissension, bitterness and any offenses of the past. According to
Your Word, love never keeps any record of wrongs; instead it always protects,
always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres. Please remind me of
this verse from the Book of Proverbs 19, 11 the discretion of a man
deferreth his anger; and it is to his glory to pass over a transgression; so
that I will understand it is to my glory to overlook an offence. I want to
forgive my spouse of all the hurts that have been inflicted towards me whether
intentional or accidental. I do not want to be ensnared by foolish discussions
and arrogant disputes and waste my time on this earth because 23 But
foolish and unlearned questions avoid, knowing that they do gender strifes. 24 And
the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to
teach, patient; 2 Tim:2:23.
Lord, each time a dispute prolongs and I
am resenting I am giving place for the evil one to take a place in my heart,
and by this my communion and fellowship, and joy with You is decreased.
Lord, place a pledge of protection around our household, so no place will be
given to the enemy in the covenant my spouse and I have established with You. Show us that as a couple we are fighting
one opponent who is a common enemy for all believers; and this enemy is Your
enemy if we genuinely want to follow You.
Lord grant me wisdom from above which
is able to discern my fleshly desires from truth. The wisdom from above is
willing to yield and give me a sense of which battles are worth fighting for
and which are not. Restore me and revive me Oh! Lord so we as a couple can live
together again in agreement. Strengthen us as a result of this conflict, and
draw us closer to Yourself, and with each other. Let, the seeds which are sown
in our relationship, produce and yield a harvest of righteousness.
Who can mend a broken
Spirit? Who can bring healing and restoration apart from God who formed
relationships in the Garden of Eden? Now to You Oh!
Lord wisdom, dominion, power and majesty reigneth and grant me grace upon grace
so that I may be able to comprehend Your wisdom and knowledge. 19And to know the love of
Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fullness
of God. 20Now unto him that is
able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to
the power that worketh in us, 21Unto him be glory in the
church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end; Amen.
References:
1. ESV Study Bible. English
Standard Version. Crossway Bibles, Wheaton, Illinois: Publishing ministry
of Good News publishers, 2008.
2. The Matthew Henry Study Bible. King James Version. Iowa falls: World
Bible Publishers, Inc. 1990.
