Saturday, August 18, 2012

Valley Experiences…..



When I think about a ‘valley’ the first thing that comes to my remembrance is Psalm 23.
“The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever”. This Psalm does indeed talks about the valley of the shadow of death, as deep, dark and dirty and frightening!
What is a Valley: ‘Tracts of land between mountains are called Vales’.
 “And the Philistines stood on a mountain on the one side, and Israel stood on a mountain on the other side: and there was a valley between them”. 1 Samuel 17:3

Valley - a depression in the earth's surface between ranges of mountains, hills, or other uplands. In the NKJV the word valley is the translation of several different Hebrew and Greek words.

Different Hebrew words refer to different meanings for valleys.

One Hebrew word refers to a split or cleft place, more like a plain than a valley. This word is used of the valleys of Aven (Amos 1:5), Jericho (Deut. 34:3), Lebanon (Josh. 11:17), Megiddo (II Chron. 35:22), and Mizpah (Josh. 11:8).

Another Hebrew word, meaning "a deep place", refers to a long, broad sweep of land between parallel hill or mountain ranges. In the NKJV this particular Hebrew word is used of several valleys, including Achor (Josh. 7:24, 26), Hebron (Gen. 37:14), and Succoth (Ps. 60:6; 108:7).

Another Hebrew word, meaning "gorge", refers to a deep, narrow ravine, usually with a stream at the bottom. Some of the valleys to which this word applies are Hamon Gog (Ezek. 39:11, 15) and Hinnom (Josh. 15:8; Neh. 11:30).

A fourth Hebrew word, which means "a ravine", refers to the bed or channel of a stream that is usually dry except during the rainy season, when it may become a rushing torrent. Some of the "valleys" to which this word applies are the Arabah (Amos 6:14), Gerar (Gen. 26:17), and Sorek (Judg. 16:4; see photo above).

A Greek word translated as valley means "a precipice". This word occurs only once in the New Testament of the NKJV: "Every valley shall be filled and every mountain and hill brought low" (Luke 3:5).

The valleys of Palestine vary considerably in shape and size. Some are deep canyons or narrow gorges, while others are broad, fertile plains.

Dales.

“And the king of Sodom went out to meet him after his return from the slaughter of Chedorlaomer, and of the kings that were with him, at the valley of Shaveh, which is the king's dale.” Genesis 14:17

Fat valleys, when fruitful.

“Woe to the crown of pride, to the drunkards of Ephraim, whose glorious beauty is a fading flower, which are on the head of the fat valleys of them that are overcome with wine!” Isaiah 28:1

Rough valleys, when uncultivated and barren.

 “And the elders of that city shall bring down the heifer unto a rough valley, which is neither eared nor sown, and shall strike off the heifer's neck there in the valley:” Deuteronomy 21:4.

The Bible, in Psalm 84:5, 6, mentions the valley of Baca: “Blessed are those whose strength is in you, who have set their hearts on pilgrimage. As they pass through the Valley of Baca, they make it a place of springs: the autumn rains also cover it with pools”. (NIV)

What then is the Valley of Baca?

Baca has been translated either as ‘weeping’ or ‘balsam trees’ (which grow in dry places). It could be a real place, in which case it was a valley through which the pilgrims passed during their journey. Alternatively, it could be figurative.

* Is not God in the height of heaven? And behold the height of the stars, how high they are! And thou sayest, "How doth God know?" Job 22:12,13a

* Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Prov. 3:5

* Acquaint now thyself with him, and be at peace: thereby good shall come unto thee. Job 22:21

E.W. Bullinger describes the valley "of Baca" as "of weeping". It can be the valley of tears as well as a desert experience. The two go together very well. When one is deluged with tears, they have no more hope than if they were lying in the hot dust of a desert, with no water in sight.

Valleys as Scenes of Battle

Broad valleys or plains often became scenes where battles were carried out in Old Testament times, for their breadth made them more suitable for warfare. Already in the Scriptural record (Gen 14:1-16) a formidable battle consisting of a league of four kings from the eastern part of the Fertile Crescent, which attacked a group of five kings from the western part that had rebelled against the Elamite king Chedolaomer is recorded.

Sweeping from north to south, the invading four kings won a series of battles that led them ever southward into the Valley of Siddim where they defeated their rivals and, took    all the possessions of Sodom and Gommorah and left” (v.11). Many other battles in broad valleys are detailed in the Scriptures. Many of Joshua’s campaigns were fought in such places (e.g., Josh. 7:1-3; 8:1-29 [cf. 7:24-26]; 11:8, 17). Such was the famous battle against the Amorites, whose climax featured the day when the sun and the moon “stood still . . . over the valley of Aijalon.11

Valley then is that place in our life where there is so much of trouble and disturbance, and we do not like it and we wanted our life to be peaceful. As explained above, valleys are different and each one of us may face a different valley, at varied times where the intensity of the depth and width are different. Very often I explain a valley using a mathematical expression called a sine curve. There are mountain peaks and valleys in this sine curve, and we do not like the experience of sitting at the bottom of the valley, especially when the depth is greater. This is the place very often even a believer can be confused, conflicted, confounded and faces what is hopelessness and despair. This is the place where one’s experience is dark and gloomy and our soul longs for freedom and we desperately wanted to come out of this deep valley. In that bleak confused, confounded moment of being trapped, coming out of that valley seems to be humanly impossible. Our souls and all that is within us long and cry out to the Living God for that freedom and we want that mountain top experience soon where there is light and peace.

Every human being experiences suffering at one time of life or another. Even though Christians know that God cares about our suffering, many wonder why God allows it. The Bible speaks of this is in many places and also provides the answers to our questions. Of course God knows and He cares for our situation. He is omnipotent, and sovereign; He has a plan for everything He allows under Heaven. In Psalm 18, the following verses are very helpful for some one who goes through a valley experience.

28 For thou wilt light my candle: the Lord my God will enlighten my darkness.

29 For by thee I have run through a troop; and by my God have I leaped over a wall.

32 It is God that girdeth me with strength, and maketh my way perfect.

33 He maketh my feet like hinds' feet, and setteth me upon my high places.

34 He teacheth my hands to war, so that a bow of steel is broken by mine arms.

36 Thou hast enlarged my steps under me, that my feet did not slip.

39 For thou hast girded me with strength unto the battle: thou hast subdued under me those that rose up against me.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; Ps: 23:4- The true friend of God has nothing to fear in that dark valley. His great Shepherd will accompany him there, and can lead him safely through, however dark it may appear. The true believer has nothing to fear in the gloomiest scenes of life; he has nothing to fear in the valley of death; in the grave; and in the world beyond.
Yet, in these valleys, God teaches us and make us strong, builds our character, moulds us, shapes us and designs us to His heart’s desire. This is not an easy journey, but very profitable spiritually and God is very near to those who are broken. Even the valleys become fruitful in a believer’s life and even death itself is fruitful of comfort to God’s people. They will not be lost in this valley but will reach the other side, and God will help them in this valley.
Lord Jesus Christ, who bridged the huge unexplainable chasm between God and man, is able to lift us out of any valley, no matter how deep and wide it may be!
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Others also identify it with the Biblical "valley of Baca" from Psalms 84 (Hebrew: בך‎). ... Then God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water. She went ... It can also be translated as "Valley of the Balsam Tree" or "Valley of the Weeper". This otherwise unidentified valley has been connected to Bakkah by Islamic writers.


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3. Jay E.Adams, ‘The Christian Counselor’s Manual, ‘The Practice of Nouthetic Counseling’ (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1973)

4. Timothy Keller, ‘The Prodigal God’ Recovering the Heart of the Christian Faith; Author of the New York Times bestseller The Reason for God, Published by Penguin Group (U.S.A) Inc:copyright @2008 Timothy Keller.

5.David G. Benner & Peter C. Hill, ‘Baker Encyclopedia of Psychology & Counseling’ Second Edition, (Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 1985, 1999)

6.Dr. Larry Crabb, “Effective Biblical Counseling” How Caring Christians can Become Capable Counselors, (Hammersmith: Marshall Pickering, 1985), p. 100-104)

7.The Matthew Henry Study Bible, ‘King James version’ The best of Matthew Henry’s Notes in a Handy One Volume Reference Bible, World Bible Publishers, Inc; 1994, Iowa Falls, U.S.A.

8. David Seeking A Heart Like His, ‘Beth Moore’ Life Way Christian resources, Nashville, Tennessee, 2010, pgs: 206-210.

9.Jay E. Adams, ‘Critical Stages of Biblical Counseling’ Finishing Well, Breaking Through, Getting Started, (New Jersey: Zondervan, 2002)

10.Jay E. Adams, ‘How to Help People Change’ The Four-step Biblical Process, (Grand rapids: Zondervan, 1986)

11.John F. MacArthur, JR. Wayne A. Mack & The Master’s College Faculty, ‘Introduction To Biblical Counseling’, “A Basic Guide To The Principles And Practice Of Counseling”(Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers,1994)

12.Jay E. Adams, ‘Lectures on Counseling’ (Grand Rapids: Baker Book House, 1978, p.192-203)

13.The Holy Bible, New King James version, Women of Destiny Bible, “Women Mentoring women Through the Scriptures” A Spirit Filled Life Bible, Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, Tennessee, Copyright 1982.

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Friday, August 10, 2012

Triggers to conflict in marriages!


1. Trigger to conflict

  1. Sex
Sex can also be a minefield of disaster within a marriage. Sin can eat away all the beauty God intended for a sexual relationship. The Bible in its teaching and in its stories reveals 3 primary areas of sex gone awry:

·         Adultery, which is outside the bounds of marriage.

·         Deadening of desire, which is unwarranted denial of sexuality within marriage.

·         Perversion, which like adultery is sexuality outside of the bounds of marriage but has an additional vicious dimension to it.

   Adultery:

The sexual revolution of the sixties and seventies called into question traditional morality. The AIDS epidemic has been like a sudden rain at a panic. Sex, especially outside of a monogamous relationship, has taken on a never-before- thought of danger.

Bible’s message: Sex is the prerogative and joy of marriage and marriage alone.  

Hebrews: 13:4

4 Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

Deut: 22:22

22"If a man is found lying with a woman married to a husband, then both of them shall die--the man that lay with the woman, and the woman; so you shall put away the evil from Israel.

Sex is the physical reflection of what takes place on the level of the human soul.

Adultery is like the worship of false gods. Adultery is not merely having sex with the wrong person; it is union with someone who will never require us to face our sinfulness or draw forth our glory so that we are more and more in awe of God.

It is intimacy without commitment, flight from the struggle of intimacy without ever facing our part in the loss.
2 Samuel 11:2-5; David and Bathsheba
David’s sexual escapade with Bathsheba sends its destructive shock waves through the rest of his life. Adultery triggers trouble that often dissolves marriage.
2 Then it happened one evening that David arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the king’s house. And from the roof he saw a woman bathing, and the woman was very beautiful to behold. 3 So David sent and inquired about the woman. And someone said, “Is this not Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?” 4 Then David sent messengers, and took her; and she came to him, and he lay with her, for she was cleansed from her impurity; and she returned to her house. 5 And the woman conceived; so she sent and told David, and said, “I am with child.”2 Samuel 11:2-5
Wisdom saying:  12 To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;13 Who leave the paths of uprightness, to walk in the ways of darkness;14 Who rejoice to do evil, and delight in the frowardness of the wicked;15 Whose ways are crooked, and they froward in their paths:16 To deliver thee from the strange woman, even from the stranger which flattereth with her words;17 Which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God.18 For her house inclineth unto death, and her paths unto the dead.19 None that go unto her return again , neither take they hold of the paths of life. Prov: 2: 12-19.
b. Death of Desire.
The second evidence of sex gone awry is the absence of sexual desire.
 Concerning Married Life
7 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. 1 Cori 7:1-7 .

In marital sexuality we gift our spouses with our bodies’ power to bring pleasure to them.  As marriage partners we do not own our own bodies; in a way our bodies belong to our spouses. Paul knows that sex is an important and crucial expression of marital union.
Certainly no one enjoys perfect sex throughout their marriage. Our sinfulness and selfishness emerge to keep us from the type of intimate vulnerability involved in the sexual act.

b. Perversion.
Transvestism, bestiality, incest, and homosexuality are some of the other sexual sins that the Bible recognizes and condemns.
 5 A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the Lord your God detests anyone who does this; Deut: 22:5

  20 Cursed be he that lieth with his father's wife; because he uncovereth his father's skirt. And all the people shall say, Amen.

21 Cursed be he that lieth with any manner of beast. And all the people shall say, Amen.

22 Cursed be he that lieth with his sister, the daughter of his father, or the daughter of his mother. And all the people shall say, Amen; Deut: 27:20-22

26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet;  Romans: 1:26-27
Sexual perversion is always a violent assault against the beauty of God’s design for sexual pleasure and intimacy.
No woman can flower into glory if her husband sees sex as nothing more than His Divine Right and prerogative to feel good about himself.
 2. Trigger to conflict
Violence
A second trigger to conflict in marriage is violence. Loneliness and futility can ignite a rage that leads to violence – sexual, physical, or emotional.
Biblical records indicate that violent sex invaded the lives and homes of people from all levels of society.
Example of violence at home:

9 Then she took the pan and served him the bread, but he refused to eat.” Send everyone out of here,” Amnon said. So everyone left him. 10 Then Amnon said to Tamar, “Bring the food here into my bedroom so I may eat from your hand.” And Tamar took the bread she had prepared and brought it to her brother Amnon in his bedroom. 11 But when she took it to him to eat, he grabbed her and said, “Come to bed with me, my sister.” 12 “No, my brother!” she said to him. “Don’t force me! Such a thing should not be done in Israel! Don’t do this wicked thing. 13 What about me? Where could I get rid of my disgrace? And what about you? You would be like one of the wicked fools in Israel. Please speak to the king; he will not keep me from being married to you.” 14 But he refused to listen to her, and since he was stronger than she, he raped her. 2 Samuel 13:9-14.

Even more prevalent are emotionally abusive homes in which family members are violated with demeaning and shameful words. No one knows, sees, and feels the impact of our sin more than our spouses do.

Some times when our loneliness or our fear of failure to succeed is exposed in our marriages, we develop a rage that desires to bind and silence our spouses. At this point, it is a great temptation to deprive our spouses of their glory when we feel deprived of our own. In those cases, verbal abuse is likely to occur…..It is very SAD this would happen in Christian marriages and homes.
Alleneder, says that physical and sexual abuse in a marriage is a grave sign of degradation that must be dealt with both legally (it is a crime) and spiritually (with church discipline)

3. Trigger of Conflict

  • Limited Time and money
Time and money are two resources that most expose our limits, our failures, and even our impending death. In our society they represent power, ability to do things, and even our ability to influence people. Money is the medium of power. The battle is not about who is trustworthy, but about who controls the most palpable means of setting the family agenda.

Is the husband spending too much time with his colleagues neglecting his wife?

This conflict over time and money will really cloud the issue. Quarrels over time and money usually reflect a demand to “own” our life than to serve the other with our wealth and existence.

10 Whoever loves money never has enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income. This too is meaningless. Ecclesiastes: 5:10
 11I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all. 12Moreover, no one knows when their hour will come: As fish are caught in a cruel net, or birds are taken in a snare, so people are trapped by evil times that fall unexpectedly upon them. Ecclesiastes: 9:11-12.
4. Trigger of Conflict
Divided Loyalties:

Do we value money or time more than the spouse?

Are we more committed to something or someone else more than we are to our beloved?

The hints of a divided loyalty always bring tension and heartbreak to the surface.
Example:
King Solomon and his divided loyalty

1 But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites;2 Of the nations concerning which the LORD said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon clave unto these in love . 3 And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart.4 For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father.5 For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Zidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites.6 And Solomon did evil in the sight of the LORD, and went not fully after the LORD, as did David his father. 1 Kings 11:1-6

The consequences of his actions were extensive, after his death the kingdom of Israel was divided into two parts.  

  • Under ‘divided loyalty’ comes our loyalty to worshipping our God. What is our commitment to this to Triune God? Is it divided between the world and God?
  • In relation to the above, if we truly believe that Triune God is all powerful, why do many Christians, get involved in Occult in order to exercise power over some one else? Marriages come with a package of struggles, along with the joy of marriage. Divided loyalty, and getting involved in Occult definitely makes the ‘journey of marriage’ harder. If we explore further our family of Origin, any one’s involvement in occult practices definitely affects the couples and their newly formed family unit.
  •  What is our commitment to our spouses? The first Divine Institution, the marriage God has made?
Paul addresses the issue of divided loyalty in the New Testament

Paul warns that intimate relationships must have Christ in common otherwise they will fail.

14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people; 2 Cori: 6:14-16.

Our loyalties as husbands and wives must be kept in balance with great commitment. Our relationships with our family of origin and in-laws and children come very secondary. After our relationship with God, our marriage relationship must command our deepest commandment. How is our relationship to God? Do we really believe He is the alpha, the omega, the beginning and the end? Do we genuinely believe He is all powerful? Do we truly believe that Jesus Christ is God’s only Son, and in Him we are saved? Do we think that there is a marriage of the Lamb and we (the Church), each one of His, will be His bride? Do we believe that God’s Spirit is working very powerfully in the world, and He is a mighty warrior protecting His own?


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For Paul, real riches were found in the believer's full assurance. ... Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge: This is an important idea in ... We always have to be reminded of the things we have been taught. ..... “Christ, in this picture, is the conquering general; the powers and authorities are the ...

Book Reference:
1 .Allender, Dan and Tremper Longman 111. Intimate Allies. Carol stream, 11; Tyndale House publishers, 1995.

2.Thomas Garry, Sacred Marriage: What if God designed Marriage More to Make us Holy than to make us Happy; Toronto, Harper Collins Canada, 2002.
* One can use the Christian model of getting out of the destructive family pattern
Other Book References:
1.Payer To Move Your Mountains, “Powerful Prayers for The Spirit-Filled Life.” (Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, Tennessee, 2000)
2. Practical Psychology for Pastors, William R. Miller, Kathleen A. Jackson (The University of Mexico), second Edition, Prentice – Hall Inc, 1995,1985, Upper Saddle River, New Jersey 07458.
3. Jay E.Adams, ‘The Christian Counselor’s Manual, ‘The Practice of Nouthetic Counseling’ (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1973)
4. John G. Kruis, ‘Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling; (Grand rapids: Baker Books, Third edition, p. 169-170)
5. David G. Benner & Peter C. Hill, ‘Baker Encyclopaedia of Psychology & Counseling’ Second Edition, (Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 1985, 1999)
6. Dr. Larry Crabb, “Effective Biblical Counseling” How Caring Christians can Become Capable Counselors, (Hammersmith: Marshall Pickering, 1985), p. 100-104).
7.The Matthew Henry Study Bible, ‘King James version’ The best of Matthew Henry’s Notes in a Handy One Volume Reference Bible, World Bible Publishers, Inc; 1994, Iowa Falls, U.S.A.
8. David Seeking A Heart Like His, ‘Beth Moore’ Life Way Christian resources, Nashville, Tennessee, 2010, pgs: 206-210.
9. Jay E. Adams, ‘Critical Stages of Biblical Counseling’ Finishing Well, Breaking Through, Getting Started, (New Jersey: Zondervan, 2002)
10. Jay E. Adams, ‘How to Help People Change’ The Four-step Biblical Process, (Grand rapids: Zondervan, 1986)
11. John F. MacArthur, JR. Wayne A. Mack & The Master’s College Faculty, ‘Introduction To Biblical Counseling’, “A Basic Guide To The Principles And Practice Of Counseling”(Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers,1994)
12. Jay E. Adams, ‘Lectures on Counseling’ (Grand Rapids: Baker Book House, 1978, p.192-203)13. The Holy Bible, New King James version, Women of Destiny Bible, “Women Mentoring women Through the Scriptures” A Spirit Filled Life Bible, Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, Tennessee, Copyright 1982.
14. Deuteronomy becoming Holy People, Stephen D. Eyre, p:32-26; IVP connect, An imprint of Intervarsity Press, Downers Grove, Illinois, 1998, 2004.
15. Metzeger, Bruce M. (ed); Michael D. Coogan (ed) (1993). The Oxford Companion to the Bible. Oxford, UK: Oxford University Press. ISBN 0-19-504645-5.
16. Mitchell, Stephen, 1987. The Book of Job. San Francisco: North Point Press. Cited in R. T. Pennock, 1999, Tower of Babel, Cambridge, MA: MIT Press.

17. Stormie Omartin, “The power of a praying wife”, Harvest House Publishers, Eugene 97402; copyright @1997; pgs81-85.
18. Allender, Dan and Tremper Longman 111. Intimate Allies. Carol stream, 11; Tyndale House publishers, 1995.
19. God’s Good Design, Claire Smith, What the Bible Really says about Men and Women, Kingsford, NSW, Australia, @ Matthias Media,2012; pgs: 157-180.
20. Everett L. Worthington JR. Author of Forgiving and Reconciling, ‘Hope-Focused Marriage Counseling’ A Guide to Brief Therapy; IVP Academic, Intervarsity Press, Illinois, copyright @ 2005; pgs 146-167.